Love

     There is a saying I have seen, I am not quite sure where it came from or who wrote it----

     Someday, someone will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else.

     That is the quote, pretty corny huh? In a world where people are interchangeable, where relationships fail every day. The idea that someone will just walk into your life and then you will understand why things never worked out with others seems preposterous and a bit idealistic, until it happens to you.

     It is something that cannot be explained until you experience it and the sad truth is some people may never experience it. I can only speak from my own experience. 

    When you really love someone nobody else holds any romantic interest for you, they are the only one  you want to be with, the one you dream about. You realize your life would be empty without that person.  It may sound a bit idealistic but you realize there is no one in the world like that person. 

     We are who we are but sometimes I think we are also like a chemical, if that makes sense. Add another element to that chemical and it becomes something different while retaining its original qualities too. We have our qualities, we have our traits, but we are someone completely different to the one who loves us than we are to other people. 

     I always like to refer to movies because for one, I like movies and for another, I like to see the deeper meaning in a story, there is always a  deeper meaning. One movie in particular I think of is about a man who meets a woman, not in person, but through a phone call. One night he ends up calling her at home and they spend the whole night on the phone talking to one another. She believes herself to be inadequate physically to be his love interest and when he persists in meeting her in person she passes her tall blonde beautiful neighbor off as herself. He tries to pursue the relationship with the blonde but it is just not the same because her neighbor is not her. Who she is to him is her inner person, that is who he fell in love with and wants to be with, something she does not comprehend. 

      I believe if more people were in love with the inner person of the one  they claim to love relationships would last. A person who is in love doesn't seek to change the one they love, why would they if they are truly in love, it is why they fell in love to begin with, they love who that person is.

     A few lyrics from the song I Do by Jewel, it shows the difference between what is wrong and what is completely right---- But life can take a long time  If you make the wrong choice Time sure seems to fly by  When I hear your voice.

     Life can take a long time when we are living with the wrong person, it can be downright painful. When we are with the person we love time flies by and there is never enough time to be with them. The time we spend with that person is pure joy. We will think about the one we love when we are not with them and we cannot wait to be with them again.  That is love.

Men and Women, The Yin and the Yang

     Thoughts change over time as a person comes to realize what things really mean. Sometimes you live with your eyes shut for years because you never really understand until you experience it.
    Yin and yang, I looked for a definition, I found this---Yin and yang can be thought of as complementary forces interacting to form a dynamic system in which the whole is greater than the parts.
     That is the way it is in true love, the whole is greater than the parts. In yin and yang one cannot exist without the other for each contains the essence of the other. In love the force of who we are interacts with the force of the other person and who they are and forms something that would not be what it is if one of those parts were missing.
     When you finally find that part of you in the other person then you realize what you were missing. You know there is nobody on earth that could ever take their place and without them, your life would be empty. It is like finding the other half of you, some people call it a soul mate.
     When you find that person you will love everything about them. I think of the scene in the movie When Harry Met Sally,  Harry rushes to Sally on New Years Eve and tells her everything he loves about her. That kind of love does exist, it is not just in the movies, I know because I have finally experienced it and I will never be the same again.